Two Things That Cause People to Lie and be Flakey

Welcome, I am so happy you’re here! You could be in any space on Earth right now, but you’ve chosen this space! And that is so very important because it means that you want to take control of your life and start trusting that perfect guidance system that resides within us all...our intuition!

Trusting your intuition isn’t always easy. It requires hard work, commitment, and self-examination. You can have everything you want in life! But you’ve got to be willing to do the work. Want co-workers to provide more honest feedback? Want to trust more? Want your loved ones to show up for you more fully? Me too, so let’s get to work!

Obfuscation - to confuse, to make unclear or obscure, to darken (synonym -  to clarify)

Never heard the term obfuscation? (No worries! After all, I am here to educate ;-) That’s the dictionary definition there above. In practice, obfuscation is hiding facts, telling only part of the truth, manipulating perception. Obfuscation is knowing how someone will react, not wanting that reaction, and changing how we behave to change how they react.

This practice is actually very common for empaths, sensitive people, people pleasers...in other words...you and me! We do it when we tell a half-truth or manipulate someone’s perception of a situation. We know we’ve done it when we walk away from an interaction feeling like we got away with something. We do it because we’re trying to avoid an undesirable reaction!

What am I doing to cause people to lie and be flakey?

Well, we’re lying and being flakey. We’re obfuscating. We’re:

  1. Avoiding Conflict.  Oftentimes we think that it’s better (or easier) to avoid what we perceive as confrontation or conflict. Communication is a healthy part of life!

  2. Operating out of Obligation. Making decisions for our lives based on what we think others think or feel. We’re trying to serve others before serving ourselves!

What does my behavior have to do with theirs?

Well, EVERYTHING! Avoiding conflict and operating out of obligation affect the energy you put out into the world, and therefore, the energy you receive back.  You get out of life what you put into it! If people are lying to us, if people aren’t showing up for us authentically; we have to recognize that we are constantly projecting the energy that is amplified in our lives. If we need our friends to tell us the truth, our family to be 100% there for us, our team members to give us honest feedback; then we need to do this ourselves! When we tell the truth, it feels open and good, and we get a lot more back from others: more clear communication, more quality work, more positive energy, more trust.

So the next time you’re exhausted but plan to attend the event anyway, or the next time you tell only a portion of the facts for fear of the other person’s reaction…think whether that is the type of energy you want amplified in your life and proceed accordingly. Say, “I’ve had an exhausting week and I want to show up for you, but I want to show up 100%. Since I can’t do that, I won’t be attending tonight.” Say, “No, I won’t be out of town but I’m not available to work this weekend.”

What is most important is that you act in a way that is in alignment with your body feeling good and open. Speak your truth and you’ll be able to live in it as well!

May intuition be with you!

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